As I was in the shower, I stepped back along the side of my tub that had the shower curtain. As my heel made contact with the edge of the tub, where it curves upward, it also stepped on the bottom hem of the plastic curtain. At that moment I felt myself start to lose balance. I was going to tip backward out of the tub and right through the curtain to the floor.
But I didn’t…
It was just a split second and I recovered, but it got me looking at the curtain. Why was it hanging low enough for my foot to step on? Oh yes, I had purchased a set of nicer curtain hooks, but these ones made the curtain hang slightly lower. What was I to do? My mind quickly summoned up several scenarios that would solve the problem:
- Move the curtain bar to a higher location. Hmm, that would require effort and time and yukk, I don’t like that option.
- I could put the old rings back on. Nope, it was worth it to get rid of the old plastic rings
- Cut and re-hem the plastic curtain. Oh man, really? Hem the bottom of the plastic curtain? I am not that handy, nor do I think it is worth a hem on the bottom. ………wait just a minute. Is there a hem?
Bending down, I examined the curtain. No hem! It’s just a plastic sheet. Wonderful! I had imagined something that wasn’t there, which affected how I perceived the task.
Thrilled at how easy it would be to simply snip away a few inched from the bottom of the curtain to solve this problem, and get rid of the yukky part of the curtain, I grabbed a pair of scissors and went to town.
Not 60 seconds later the curtain was curtailed and I was happy as it looked all clean once again!
How easy it was to simply remove the bother. But it wasn’t easy arriving at that decision. In fact, I stopped myself before I had even begun by the assumption of what it would entail.
How many times has this happened in the past I wondered as I proceeded to rewash my body to make sure I was clean once more before stepping out. I bet I never caught myself thinking about that before. It’s such an easy thing to overlook.
That isn’t what I would call a ‘core’ limiting belief, but I might suggest that it is indicative of them. Where there is smoke, no doubt a bright flame exists within me. If I imagined something to block such a simple act, what was I telling myself about larger issues? What was I saying to limit myself in other areas of my life?
These are good questions, I thought, after I started to shave. I have grand plans for what I want to do with my life, but they are so grand, so big, that I scare myself when I think of how to get started. I feel overwhelmed when I think of wanting to proceed. Is it a dream, or could I turn what I desire into reality?
After I finished shaving, I mused that I may be limiting my own potential by thinking about the imagined tasks ahead, just like the curtain. I can only perceive what I have experienced, seen, or heard about. I don’t really have a clue about how it might actually happen!
What if I didn’t have any limiting beliefs? What would my mind do with my dreams and desires and many intentions? Would it simply give them the attention they deserve? Would I stop feeding my fears and doubts? I think so. I actually think I would revert to the child-like mind of anything is possible and step forward in areas that I may have perceived hardship, or doubt.
How long has it been since you thought that way? Do you remember dreaming about what you wanted to do or be as a child? Was it an astronaut? Fireman, Veterinarian, CEO, or Hero? Our thoughts were grandiose weren’t they? Did the world’s issues, problems and worries get in the way of what we thought might have been possible?
Towelling off, my body started to tingle. I got goosebumps by imagining how limiting I must have been in my life until now. Whatever happened, whatever has jaded me into thinking so easily that the task at hand was difficult or hard, I triumphed today. I became aware of this false reasoning, this barrier to what I wanted to do and reasoned past it. I investigated the issue and found it to be false. there was no hem to dissuade me from forging ahead with my simplistic idea to just cut the bottom off.
It did turn out as simple as it seemed in my head, at first blush, before I questioned myself. And I was truly happy afterward at what I achieved. Imagine if I chose this same reasoning toward an important task I wanted to achieve, something life changing!
How often do our instilled limiting beliefs change our course of action to the mediocre? How many times do we settle for what is achievable by our own sense of what we can accomplish?
Too many times!
We have been taught to submit to the teachings of others, to believe answers outside of ourselves, to play the game of life to get where you want, and by the way, this is what you want, need, love, desire! I still needed to get dressed, but I felt cleaner, in thought and body, than I had felt in a long time.
When you start to become conscious about the choices you make, whether it is as simple as changing a nuisance curtain, or changing a significant aspect of your life, it changes the way you think. My girlfriend loves the statement:
“Once you’re conscious you can never go back”
I believe it. It receive proof of it every day I examine my choices. Every time I wonder why I did that, or said that, or felt this. I can’t help but to question what it is that I became in the hands of others all these years, for surely I was not myself! How could I have become so complacent with my life, when I had dreams, glorious dreams of what I would be doing by now!
I am in my mid forties now, and being finally dressed, I wondered aloud that there must come a time when we have been away from school, our parents, and even friends and partners for a time, to spend some time alone, and reflect upon what our life is all about. Whatever makes us re-evaluate our life around this time, I am glad it happens.
I am so blessed, because as I entered that phase of my life, I found the most endearing, compassionate, like-minded soul I have ever met. Together, we have exponentially grown closer to one another and our own selves.
Many of our beliefs are based on man made limits. Like how old we are. Really? What does that matter? As Mark Twain so poignantly presented: ‘Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter’
May you grow in consciousness and be able to witness your thoughts, decisions, and beliefs enough to verify if they still hold true today. You might find, like I did, that many of the thoughts have been self limiting. Now is the time to get out your own scissors and cut those limiting beliefs away!
What’s left will be more powerful than any teachings from another, and then your potential will really become unlimited, the way it was so many years ago!